It’s the end of a month of weektime daily coaching conversations. The learnings are aplenty, the questions are numerous and large, the joy and purpose deeply heartening. In this blog post I’m sharing my Biggest Learning and some news.

Collaborative Coaching Conversations

How do you faciliate collaborative coaching conversations?

This month I met and worked with 17 new people. I coached on topics such as: confidence, efficiency, career changes, job shifts, motivation, procrastination, time management, COVID-19 pressures, purpose.

My Biggest Learning after a month of coaching is the necessity and drive I feel to make coaching accessible: the process itself, the price, myself as Coach. Why? …


A brief sum up of my coaching practice, right now.

This month I was inspired to answer to a couple of questions found in Brap‘s Racism: Learning, Thinking, Practice. Thanks to Enrol Yourself for intro to their work. Last month I wrote in response to a Forbes article on ‘questions to ask a coach before working with them’. Read it here.

What impact do you want to have through doing this work?
• Offer a space where people can practice and live out self-expression, self-honesty, self-respect, in order to impact practical decision-making in work/life
• Bring coaching to people who don’t have…


Reflections half-way through a month of daily coaching conversations.

Thank you to those who’ve worked with me in coaching throughout this year, my supervisors, coaches and therapists, the She Leads Change community of coaches, the MOE community of coaches, Enrol Yourself community, the Association of Coaching, Simply Coaching, 3D Coaching, Spectra, my friends, parents and sister, my trans poetry group— for helping me learn, change and connect. This blog post is shaped by all of you.

Breaking the fourth wall — like they do in theatre
I called this blog post breaking the fourth wall, because I want to break the…


Circle on Compassion with Duanalla and Sr Judith Leckie:
‘How do I hold my suffering today?’
https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?v=664161881074721&ref=watch_permalink

Sharon Salzberg in conversation with Kirsten Neff:
‘Whose suffering am I holding in my heart today?’
https://art19.com/shows/metta-hour-with-sharon-salzberg/episodes/fc744735-64b5-4038-b0ff-4573e72f30ae

Kirsten Neff self-compassion practice:
‘Who is holding my suffering today?’
https://center4msc-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/GivingandReceivingCompassion_Neff.mp3

I’m Iacob, a certified coach offering space and support for reflection, accountability and structure to explore career, business, jobs and life transitions. Read about my work here. I appreciate suggestions and new learning. Write me on: iacobrbacian@gmail.com.

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Arunthep Sangvareethip
New Normal Mindset — ‘Accepting our humanness AND taking responsibility.’
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MTPKM5wfWug&feature=youtu.be

Kathy Caprino
4 Ways To Take Accountability For Your Actions (And Why So Many Don’t)
https://www.forbes.com/sites/kathycaprino/2019/08/18/4-ways-to-take-accountability-for-your-actions-and-why-so-many-dont/#92bd9406dab4

Includes article about toxic (human?!) behaviours, one of which is taking things personally. See next article.

Nick Wignall
6 Psychological Reasons Why You Take Things Too Personally
https://medium.com/personal-growth/6-psychological-reasons-why-you-take-things-too-personally-6c46c21402a1

I’m Iacob, a certified coach offering space and support for reflection, accountability and structure to explore career, business, jobs and life transitions. Read about my work here. I appreciate suggestions and new learning. Write me on: iacobrbacian@gmail.com.

Book a FREE Coaching call with me this November


Padraig O’Tuama
‘There’s rarely a shiny ending.’
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Ajj_IViAv4

Dr. Gabor Maté & Daniel Maté
‘What is the relationship possible right now, right here?
— working through old narratives to find a fresh start.’
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GIcppb9mbSc

Diane Musho Hamilton
‘What is your intention for being in this conversation? Can you be for yourself but also for the other? What are you noticing?’

Psyche and Stand Alone
‘What is my role in what is happening? What would radical acceptance of what I am able to bring look like?’

How to Fight Well
‘Skills for navigating conflict.’
https://www.howtofightwell.com/

I’m Iacob, a certified coach offering space and support for reflection, accountability and structure to explore career, business, jobs and life transitions. Read about my work here. I appreciate suggestions and new learning. Write me on: iacobrbacian@gmail.com.

Book a FREE Coaching call with me this November


Responding to Forbes Council Post: 13 Questions to ask a potential coach before partnering up/ A brief sum up of my coaching practice, right now.

Arthur’s Seat, Edinburgh

1.What will matter the most to you in this relationship?
Holding you accountable to self-honesty, self-respect, and increased tolerance to growth and learning.

2.Am I a good client for you?
You are a good client for me if you prioritize your values and living from that place in a tangible way.

3.Are you the right coach for me?
This will depend on how we click. I believe in being honest about how it feels, what we…


Weekly reflections on coaching — as coach, client and learner

‘More recently, complexity theorists have identified that, rather than seeking steady-state functioning, complex adaptive systems are necessarily marked by a sort of sustainable instability or dynamic equilibrium (Haines, 1998; Stacey, 2000).’
- Evidence-Based Coaching Handbook, Diane R Stober and Anthony M Grant

Last week I wrote about how oganisms naturally look for a state of homeostasis, meaning ‘the tendency towards a relatively stable equilibrium between interdependent elements, especially as maintained by physiological processes.’ …


Weekly reflections on coaching — as coach, client and learner

We are socialised and trained to believe that our experience with a client will tell us what we need to know. This is a real culture change.
-
Robbie Babins-Wagner, Chief Executive Officer of the Calgary Clinic

This quote talks to the fact that many therapists rely only on their own assessment of whether the therapy is working, without data or live outside input. Recording or observing sessions come with the cost of confidentiality and of course, impact on ability to disclose in a therapeutic context.

What are the parallels…


Weekly reflection on coaching — as coach, client and learner

“Eating together, by itself, is not necessarily an indicator that community has been formed around food.” — Rabbi Ethan Tucker (found on Casper Ter Kuile)

I’ve found all my coaches through my network of colleagues and friends. But there are other ways to find them: a quick Google search of your keywords or getting one through your workplace. There are also a growing number of platforms that do AI-based matching such as BetterUp (for employees), coach bots and VR coaching i.e. …

iacob bacian

Relational #coaching for #socialjustice — https://linktr.ee/iacobcoaching

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